Archive for the ‘Understanding Women’ Category
Saturday, August 18th, 2012
For men understanding women is usually something they want, but women want them to understand instinctively without them having to tell them anything. It’s an interesting problem and one that can impact relationships both negatively and positively.
Men are sometimes surprised when a woman is displeased. They may be unaware there is a problem and then…boom…she loses her temper. One good way to deal with this problem is to ask her…and frequently, too, something simple like, “How was your day?”
That way she feels you care even if you don’t know whatever is bothering her or even that she has a problem. You avoid coming across as clueless or selfish or oblivious…even if you are.
Men tend to think of love in terms of working for the family. They talk about and resent “the old ball and chain” these responsibilities entail.
In many cases their presence and their attention would mean more to both their wives and their families. The problem is they are not at home enough to find out that their families miss them and would like to spend more time with them. Think less about work and more about what you and they want from life. Review your priorities today.
Many women work really hard, too, basically about 16 hours a day. Often they don’t get much appreciation for it, either. Every one of us…men or women both…likes to be respected and appreciated. The problem is that an exhausted woman is typically resentful and cranky. Offer her a sexual overture and your hand may come back a bleeding stump.
It’s also interesting to consider that some things women are working so hard to do…things they feel they HAVE to do…are not things that are deal breakers in their relationship.
For example we know a couple currently living happily. She loves to cook and he loves to eat. Neither of them likes to keep house. Either they pay someone to clean or they settle for a home that is a bit messy. It’s been working for them for many years.
They had to talk it over to reach this conclusion. They did and it worked. Communicating with her, including really listening can go a long way to understanding women or at least understanding her. Simple relationship advice that can really help you better understand her or as some men might say, figure her out.