Wednesday, March 9th, 2011
OK, tell me how your last marriage ended.
In real life living with cranky, bad-tempered, demanding types is not much fun. It’s like having to live with a spoiled two-year-old forever. Most toddlers grow out of it eventually but your ex never did.
The first piece of second marriage advice I have for you to insure you a successful second marriage is this. Think over why your first marriage failed. Usually it’s because one partner in the marriage found someone else.
Their next step is to make YOU feel responsible for their transgressions.
So they pick on you and treat you badly and try to make you feel bad.
As far as they are concerned it’s over. No amount of counseling is going to fix the fact that they don’t love you anymore. They love someone else.
So they treat you like dirt. They are mean to you because they want you to feel inadequate.
The whole thing wrecks your ego and it’s intentional.
Obviously you don’t want it to happen again and end up in those dreaded failed marriage statistics. You want someone different the next time.
In your successful second marriage, look for someone who is nice to you and other people. Don’t look for love in bars. Look into activities that interest you. If you meet someone that shares your interests you already have something in common. Check people out if you start to date seriously. Delay sex until it’s right. Find someone who is your intellectual equal and finally look for someone who is good-natured.
If your new interest manages to act like an adult, is kind hearted and fun to be with, you are on the right track. Let someone else deal with the spoiled bad boys and girls. Make sure you are OVER putting up with perpetual brats. You WILL have more fun.