Relationship Advice Unlike Any Other
Friends are always asking for relationship advice from us, since we have been together for a long time. They want to know why we are different from other couples who don’t have very successful relationships. They want to know why we are still in love and happy after many years together.
It seemed important to us to have love. We call it relationship advice 101, being truly in love. And it took some thought and some agreement between us at the beginning of our future successful relationship. There were some really important factors (to us) involved. Also, we really didn’t receive any relationship advice before we married.
1. We knew for sure we did NOT want to be like our parents. Neither of us grew up in happy households. So when we met we only knew a lot about what we did not want, not what we did want. We were both wary and more than a little afraid of marriage and the load of unhappiness it might bring.
2. We discovered there are a lot of real differences in the way couples with successful relationships relate to each other.
3. We also wanted to have fun together. Our early lives were loaded down with what should have been our parent’s responsibilities. So for us getting married and moving away actually meant we were on sort of a vacation and could have fun for a change. Still the siblings show up really often, but we are managing to find more time just for ourselves.
We found freedom together. Who made the rule that when you marry you lose all your freedom? We have given each other more freedom than we had ever had before we got together.
Love is only one way to find more pleasure in life. There are other pleasures that we can all experience, even single people. Eating wonderful food is one of ours. Exploring our creativity is another. Making a comfortable and luxurious home is one, too. Lately we have been considering custom cars.
Life is full of potential for some people and full of frustrated longing for other people.
Many times relationships problems are the direct result of the other things going on in our lives. It’s the bills or an abusive boss or too many chores to do in too little time. Many gurus’ relationship advice ignores what life can deal you that can dramatically affect your relationships.
But the possibilities of being more in control of one’s own life are tantalizing.
Part of the equation is love and attraction, part is financial, and another part is shared interests.
Luxury and elegance and the exquisite pleasures of home are very important to us. We like to entertain. Travel and food and wine are good, too. Nutrition has been a life long interest for both of us. We find learning, the pursuit of knowledge, very compelling. It’s even better because we are no longer captives in a formal school environment. Our interests are self directed, the best of all freedoms.
We decided to answer the calls to let other people in on our secrets of relationship success.
Georgette is a former social worker, real estate professional and business owner.
Ron is a business owner and consultant, accounting professional and SEO expert.
We have restless minds with interests ranging from fashion design, gardening, cooking and nutrition, enhancing business success, hiking in national parks, philosophy, living green and off the grid and teaching effective communication.
What do YOU want and need in your life? Everyone is different. Don’t worry if you are different from us or different from most of your peers. It’s OK. Let our relationship advice as well as advice on life(after all they are not separate) help you create your own successful relationship.